December 31st at 11:59 pm, we raised a glass of champagne to mom as she calmly laid in her own bed, surrounded by family who love her. As she took her last breaths, everyone in the room helped make her transition home as comfortable, loving and sacred as possible. Those who knew mom were blessed by her kindness. My husband, Curt, has always described her as the kindest person I know (so, enough with the mother-in-law jokes).
I observed precious tears in our daughter’s eyes as she read her husband’s entry in Facebook just hours after her Gramma passed over: Thinking about the passing of the sweetest woman I know. As a wife, mother, daughter and friend, I knew in that moment she was quietly experiencing a bonding with her husband that would grace their relationship with eternal devotion.
There are not words descriptive enough to thank those who have provided sustenance for us through this all too long goodbye. Alzheimer’s is a devouring disease that affects everyone in its path. I am beyond grateful for the words, memories, kindness and support we’ve received as we’ve struggled through this journey. Not everyone gets the luxury of helping their loved ones leave Earth with love, grace and comfort. Thank you Vanna Novak, professional speaker, speaking coach and spiritual sister for these consoling words:
. . . you were with her in the deepest sense of the word, right up to the very moment she passed on. You lovingly helped her out of this world, just as she brought you into it. The Circle is complete as was the love that you shared.
In honor of mom, I name 2010 as the Year of Grace (thank you Leslie Charles for teaching me to name years). Applying daily Random Acts of Kindness means practicing mom’s disciplined, deliberate kindness and carrying on the legacy of a life that mattered.
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